Dear You, yes, you going through that deployment,
I can’t promise you that it works out the way you lay in bed
dreaming about. In fact, this deployment
will change a lot more than you ever imagined.
I know you have spent night after night crawling in bed at 5:30pm just
to avoid the time of day that you miss him most. When he comes home, sometimes you will look
at the empty spot he sleeps in and wonder why you still feel like you are
waiting.
But please know this, please know that when he smiles at
you, even though it’s not quite the same, you will see that little bit of who
he was before he left. Please know,
that through it all, he will survive, and so you will you. Please know, that the perfect life you had
planned will never happen, but what you will end up with is a life that you
appreciate more than you will ever truly realize.
I know you have spent time fighting while he has been
gone. I don’t know why some couples do
that, but they do. And I know that some
days you would rather fight with him and be angry than not hear from him at
all, because every second he is on the phone with you is a moment that you know
for sure, at least for now, that he is alive.
And I know that the days, sometimes weeks, in between those seconds feel
like an eternity, during which you might go mad.
You tell yourself, “If I can survive this, I can survive
anything,” and I wish that were true. I
wish I could reach back in time and tell you that surviving the deployment is
only half the battle. I wish I could
shout that into the universe so that every military spouse can hear my words
and understand that waking up each day struggling to get out of bed until he is
home again will not compare to the battle to be fought at home. Not everyone will have to fight that battle,
but the simple truth is that you will.
This deployment, for all its terrible pain and heartache,
will give you some of the strength that you will need in the days to come. But you are so much stronger than you think
and it’s time that you start to rely on that strength, because the coming days
will be tough. But in the end, though
the life you planned on having will be no where to be seen, the one you have
will be worth fighting for. The life you have will be a life together, and no
matter how bad things get, you will still wake up everyday thankful that at the
very least, you’ve got that.
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